You are not alone. I’m a worrier too.
Usually, I even worry when I am not worried. We are not just worried about one thing, but about all sorts of everyday things. Just as , If one of our family member is late from his/her work by 30-40 minutes, In the first 10 minutes our immediate thought is that it might be due to bad traffic. But in the next 30 minutes our thoughts might reach to something like car crash / robbery etc..
Thinking so, is actually not logical and we might know it. We might know that there might be some other small stupid reason for his/her delay. But still we bound our-self with worry. The moment that person reaches home safely, we thank god and switch to another reason to worry about. That worry may be regarding the next everyday thing , or some future plans.
Parents are worried about the future of their children; Children are worried about their career. Poor people are worried to earn their next meal; millionaires are worried about their money. Women are worried about their interpersonal relationships; Men are worried about giving their family a good lifestyle. So everyone here is a worrier.
Actually, we all have a Tom-n-Jerry relationship with worry. And that’s called Love-Hate relationship.
Hate – Just because it makes us feel sick and tensed. It steals our joy and keeps us busy doing nothing.
Love – Sometimes, worrying is actually good for us. Worrying can be helpful when it spurs you to take action and solve a problem. But if you are preoccupied with worst case scenarios of “what ifs”, worry becomes a problem.
Don’t confuse worry with anxiety. Anxiety is actually a state of unease that might also include worry. Anxiety is worrying too much about everyday things, Large and Small.It’s okay to get worried, but it’s not okay to end the road ,thereby falling into anxiety/ depression. Worrying is a state of mind. We always say ” don’t worry “, but we do.
It is said “Worrying is not a solution to any problem” . But I say , It might lead to a solution if you take it positively. Be patient with yourself. You can train your brain to stay calm and look at life from a more positive perspective. Learn to embrace your feelings. We all have emotions that sometimes makes our life messy. They don’t always make sense and they are not always pleasant. But as you grow up your mind and accept it as a part of being human, you’ll be able to use them to your advantage. because life is all about fighting these ” what ifs”. So just breathe in, and breathe out, because Life goes on.